In the family
Within the family it is very clear that mirror neurons “resonate” according to the moods of others. Think of parents who return home full of stress after a busy day at work. As soon as their children and partners they see them, they feel the same stress, the same state of mind: is it going to be a pleasant dinner?
Knowing how mirror neurons work allows us to make choices, change our mood, make it more adapted to the context in which we are living. Imagine having lunch or dinner together when there is someone at the table with a sad face, perhaps with tears in his eyes: would you be able to stay calm?
I work every day training company executives and employees how to use the mirror system. Imagine arriving at work at 8.15 in the morning and seeing the face of a depressed colleague, who is sighing and complaining. Is it likely to be a good day? And if your worst customer arrives at 8:30 in the morning and I makes you go through a dreadful 20 minutes, how will you treat all subsequent customers that day? Being aware of these mechanisms related to empathy allows you to be much more conscious and effective even in the workplace. The goal is to create a serene and pleasant atmosphere, because when you work in a favourable human environment, the benefits can be extended to the family and above all to ourselves.
I often work with teachers and students. How many of you ever went to school prepared, having studied, and presented yourself for the test totally free from embarrassment, the fear of making a mistake or not knowing something? That state of mind is immediately perceived by teachers, and often misunderstood, leading to erroneous assessments. Remember forgetting what you wanted to say because of nervousness, when in fact you were prepared? Helping students manage their state of mind would be a big point in their favour. The same applies to teachers, when they are not in a good mood, the whole class is affected: seeing the state teacher’s state of mind, students tend to experience the same and reproduce it.